To be personal or not?

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I've learned since my older account, that being active with your members and responding to every comment allows your watchers to feel more welcome to your page and invite questions. Consequently, it also invites users who feel they can take advantage of your friendliness to ask for 'requests', or suggest ideas that they 'would love to see' or even argue with your opinions without reading your FAQ, and forgetting that your life is NOT devoted to one online website.
I follow a strict belief of not judging others, but that does not mean I am not skeptical of online users. We are all practically strangers to each other, even if I have chatted with you for a few years online, I have the right to not talk or interact with people that make me feel uncomfortable. People often pool the 'I've spoken to you online before, now we're homies' card and think they're guaranteed an art trade or an eternal friendship....no....no. Do not fool yourself. And do not try and guilt trip me.
Treating everyone with respect - anonymous or not should not be a call for friendship, rather it should be a human right. So don't mistake general kindness and respect for something personal.
Please. I hate turning down people and I hate having to censor my feelings to accommodate some strangers'.
What is your opinion on the level of professionalism between artist and watcher? We know to not to give into every whim of a watcher, but where do you draw the line? Do you have to constantly come up with professional excuses to reject someone casually? Or just not respond to their comment?
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GoldenEmotions's avatar
Hmmm...
1st: I think an artist should reply to comments and such. I mean, myself I am trying to be an active watcher, but do you know those artists who get 5 comments on a piece and can't even reply to those? There I don't waste my time trying to come up with a decent comment becaus I simply feel ignored. And yes, I reply to all comments I get, no matter how long it takes.

2nd: I agree that talking a few times online really does not make someone a friend, and yes, it's annoying if people try to guilt trip one. If people simply ask for a favour it's okay to me, but then they have to accept a no. I take commissions, and work whenever I have time. That easy. And just a few days ago I had someone who did NOT accept a no and started a big drama of 'Oh my god I am in a such a pain because no one does my request!' And this person started to say stuff like 'we are all humans, we must be nice to eachother, we are like one family', and I seriously was like what the f*ck?! I won't let any stranger call me their sister just because they want something! o.O And oh, after saying I only do requests for close friends, what do you think I got to hear? 'we could get to know each other now!'... Yeah... Ridiculous...